“Friendships, romances, careers, children, writing and creating all take effort, and when you are depressed, that energy isn’t there, and that effort just doesn’t feel worth it.”

“What would it be like to watch yourself die? To be at the bedside, holding your own hand for your final breath?”

“Years of telling myself, every day, that I was a failure. That what I’d given of myself had made no difference. I hadn’t realized how badly I needed those words: ‘Baby, it was enough.'”

Ask yourself, “Where is the fight?” It isn’t at the finish line. It is one step past the last.

“Ignorance must be met with teaching, not preaching. Your right may be different from my right.”

“We are not books, but we do have stories, and nothing ruins a story like certainty. I hope I am writing a good one.”

This past July 5 was my three-year “traniversary,” the anniversary of my coming out as transgender and beginning my transition. A day I’ve dubbed “Iden’s Day.”

“There will always be outstanding players, leaders in every field, and they are vital, but they are not so worthy of praise that we should devalue the contributions of the other team members.”

“Allowing people the freedom to fully self-identify in the ways that are most genuine and true to their lives and experience is the first step toward truly celebrating diversity.”

“It is a frightening time to be transgender or nonbinary in America. It’s a frightening time to love someone who is trans or nonbinary.”